People are filled with stories. Some travel all around the world to find them while others bury themselves in books and get lost in movies. I’ve met my fair share of characters who make meeting them, even if only briefly, interesting.
From coffee shops to bars, I’ve always looked outside of the house for my stories until I recently realized that I was living with one. My pops. Sometimes we forget that our parents had a life too.
So, Tuesdays with Pops (TWP) is born! I’ve had this idea for months now. I just recently had the time to sit down and write. Mitch Albom’s Tuesdays with Morrie inspired the title. I first picked up a copy when i was 12 and now I realize that its story didn’t stop when I came to the last chapter. In its own way Morrie’s story and everything it stood for continued through me.
When you get older at some point you realize that hanging and talking out with your parents isn’t uncool anymore. Being the youngest and “daddy’s little girl,” Pops always gave unsolicited advice. Back then I listened not only by running away, but by coming home past curfew, passing out in my room and learning the hard way. Funny how now I’m the one who’s making the initiative to talk. TWP is my attempt to listen, learn and to love from a wise old man. He’s better than a real life Morrie. He’s my Pops.
Me: So Pops, what do you want to talk about?
Pops: Anything. Life, love, you name it.
Me: How about work? Since I need to find a job soon.
Pops: Work? Pssh, work is easy. It’s common sense. But you have to have the necessary skills especially when you’re up there to make the proper decisions.
The world is a big, bad and scary place, especially after college when you need to find a job. But we are fickle minded people living in a constantly changing world. The faster it spins, the worse we experience vertigo, even if we’re just standing. Pop’s points out fundamental principles we need to keep from falling. It’s not as complex as it seems.
Be like Leo
“It’s like driving your car. When you know how to drive you can drive any kind of car. It’s just about getting a license. “
I suppose that means you can drive where ever you want to go too. I suddenly thought of Leonardo De Caprio in Catch Me If You Can. No wonder Frank Abagnale Jr., a real life con artist can get away as a pseudo pilot, doctor and layer and succeed doing it.
Regardless of the industry, there’s a basic framework he says. “The corporate set ups are all the same. You have the owners, shareholders, execom, etc. Of course there are variations depending on what your needs are and innovation makes it faster.”
Even though I have an idea of the career I want to pursue after college, maybe knowing exactly what I want to do is not the fundamental principle here. Rather it’s understanding the patterns behind people, the world, and society so you know how and where to place your talents and succeed in whatever you want to do. Without this understanding, maybe that’s why people get so lost later on in life.
Pops says don't just scratch your balls.
So where’s my place?
“If you’re an executive you’re paid to make decisions. They don’t hire you so you just scratch your balls there. Right? They pay you for your skills and what you have in your brain. You might be a paraplegic but if you have the skills stored in your brain then you’re okay. “
I don’t have balls (obviously) and if I did I don’t think I’m the type to scratch them (at least in public. Do it in secret.)
Me: But pops, even if I’m the type to become an executive, there are hundreds of people who can do what I do. I don’t have that technical expertise which gives others their competitive edge.
Earlier Pops used an example of a pilot. You can’t just replace him with someone because not everyone knows how to fly a plane and the company still needs to fly people out the next day. So, what then?
Find your Q = RSF
Pops: You will not be paid just because you’re Rica Facundo. You’re paid for your output — the quality and need for it.
Me: But my output makes me Rica Facundo.
After briefly explaining to me some basic accounting principles where assets = liabilities + capital, he suggested I make my own equation:
Q (uality) = r s f (Rica Salanguit Facundo)
There’s definitely more to add to my personal equation. But whatever that balance might turn out to be, I must keep one other thing in mind. Lets re-write that shall we.
Q(UALITY) = RSF (RICA SALANGUIT FACUNDO)
Because, Pops says, “In the real world you should always write your name in all caps.”
Teach me how to duck face